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Love letter


Love letter

Why exactly is it so hard to love who we are? The skin we live in? Why can’t we believe in all those self worth books, inspirational talks, yoga teachers telling us we are enough? Why can’t we accept our strengths but also weakness, limitations, bits of adipose or the way we move or speak? Why can’t we simply let the love that we have for others spread over ourselves too?

We try really hard to appear attractive, smart, kind, worthy and validate our actions for everything we do but we forget that no one can actually do a better job of being you than you. Over the years I have noticed that the reasons are different for each person but the ones that recur are:

  • all the negative experiences, comments and remarks stick like glue. We, as human beings are much more likely to remember and hold to the negatives said or done to us, than the positives. It gets even further and we ignore or completely forget all the positive evidence of our beauty, choosing to stick to the negatives.

  • we are also born into an environment that is based on the need for approval, which means that our primary focus IS approval, not self acceptance. We go out into the harsh world where our beauty is compared to others, and suddenly, our self loving thoughts have vanished. Then, we feel it’s wrong to love ourselves. It's shameful and narcissistic.

We have tendency to attach labels to everything we do, to how we look and perform, to others. Since we already do this, go and grab a bunch of post-it notes. Type a loving message on each page. What every comes to mind. It may feel a little bit odd at the beginning, so think about someone you love dearly, our partner, child, friend maybe even a pet. What would you like to tell them every day when you see them, what is that you love about them. Put it in this format ‘YOU ARE ….’

If you happen to live with someone, ask hem to stick one note every day on your bathroom mirror in the evening, just before going to bed. If you live by yourself, do it yourself and just go to bed after you have done it. 

How do you feel after a week, or even after the first morning when you wake up and this is the first thing you see? How does it feel when at the time of looking in the mirror you know you are enough. How does your life feels like when you don’t care about the aesthetics, pre-considered notions and you move to the place where you love exactly who you are right now?

To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.
— Thich Nhat Hanh



8 things I loved about NYC

1) Central Park - I was really lucky to have it just around the corner, and I am glad it exists otherwise I would be lost in this concrete jungle

2) Avocado chocolate mousse, actually probably food all together. NYC is full of small organic places where you can get yummy food

3) Street system and numbers - so easy to navigate

4) Yoga studio on every corner

5) As every big city people pass you on the street without acknowledging that you are a human being too, however once you made an eye contact or ask them a question they are super friendly and surprisingly open (maybe I was just lucky;)

6) The size of the US flag!

7) The high line, park built on a section of a disused rail line (weirdly resembling Central Park)

8) This is truly a city of possibilities



15 things I loved about Thailand (this list is growing every time I look at it)

In no particular order:

1) Simple things matters. You don't need much to be happy and content

2) It’s illegal to leave your house without underwear on or drive a car shirtless (just to clarify, this is strictly theoretical knowledge not based on experience ;)

3) The incredibly colourful, fascinating, diverse Thai nature

4) Food, food, food, I mean have you seen the size of their mango?!

5) Thai foot massage - possibly the best thing on the planet

6) Thai people will never say 'no' to you. According to the World Economic Forum, Thailand is the 13th friendliest country in the world

7) Thailand is the only country in south-east Asia that hasn’t been colonised by Europeans…yet

8) It is strictly against the law to criticise the monarchy - we would have such a hard time if this rule was enforced in the UK

9) Water taxis

10) Elephant Nature Park run by Lek Chailert

11) Bangkok’s real name is: Krung Thep Mahanakhon Amon Rattanakosin Mahinthara Ayuthaya Mahadilok Phop Noppharat Ratchathani Burirom Udomratchaniwet Mahasathan Amon Piman Awatan Sathit Sakkathattiya Witsanukam Prasit - now, try to say that!

12) The name ‘Thailand’ means ‘land of free’ and you can definitely feel it 

13) In the past, all Thai young men including the kings became Buddhist monks for at least a short period of time before their 20th birthday (I think someone told me it’s a minimum of a fortnight). I don’t think this is compulsory anymore however all the men I have met decided to do it anyway. 

14) This little guy called: mudskipper - potentially the coolest fish ever

15) Sexual tolerance

 I could keep going with this...